The Best Exotic Seniors' Movie

Movie Review- The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel
 

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There has been a slow trickle of movies made for and about older adults and seniors recently. These movies are a wonderful change of pace in that they depict this age group in leading romantic roles – a nice alternative from films of the past that showed the unpleasant side of aging and later life challenges.

Recently, I watched The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel, a low budget picture with major star attraction. The film is based on These Foolish Things by Deborah Moggach and while it probably won’t win an Academy Award for best picture, it sure does leave you with a smile on your fac

Seven seniors facing a crossroads
The film looks at seven seniors facing a crossroads. One woman is left to pick up the pieces after discovering that her late husband’s mismanagement of their money has left her in a financial crisis; two lonely senior singletons set off in search of love and sex and an unhappily married couple are forced to re-evaluate their relationship and self identity after becoming bankrupt. There is also an embittered, socially isolated bigot and a well respected high court judge who finally decides to face his dark past.

This random group of mismatched travellers somehow get thrown together when they all wind up at the same rundown hotel in Rajasthan India. Amidst the backdrop of a loud, chaotic and vibrant India, they each learn how to cope with their personal issues which sets the stage for the next chapter in their lives.

The most surprising character
For me, the most surprising person is played by Tom Wilkinson. The character is a renowned figure in the legal world and viewers may be surprised at his story and the path he takes in the film. What is so refreshing is how matter-of-fact the character is about his personal life choices as an older man. When he is able to rid himself of shame and guilt, the end result is a beautiful and romantic emotional tragedy for the viewer.

The movie is full of optimism and passion. It’s about self discovery and understanding your true worth. It’s about facing obstacles and overcoming them. And it’s about finding love when you’ve given up all hope.

It doesn’t matter how old you are to relate to this film. Life throws curve balls and you need to figure out how to handle each mess that you find yourself in. On the bright side, you also need to celebrate your own victories, no matter how small.

Looking for love
We’re all looking for love and companionship. We all want to feel good about ourselves. We all seek companionship from lovers and friends. To feel loved, to belong, to feel valued and respected—these are things that we can sometimes lose along the way as we make our way through the world. But we continually seek them out because these are what make us human and bind us to others.


By Michele Cauch, Executive Director, SageHealth Network

Published in Comfort Life Magazine http://www.comfortlife.ca/blog/review-the-best-exotic-seniors-movie-8068/

Tech-Savvy Seniors Bridging the Digital Divide: Revera Report

Social connectivity and, independent living key benefits, say seniors; new research partnership with U of T to explore age-friendly technologies

TORONTO, Canada, June 20, 2012 – Digital communications may once have been the domain of the young, but Canada’s senior citizens are increasingly crossing the digital divide, according to new research from Revera, a Canadian leader in seniors' accommodation, care and services.  The Revera Report on Tech-Savvy Seniors reveals that a growing army of online seniors, aged 75 and older, are using digital technology for everything from independent living to online shopping and more face time with friends and family using platforms like Skype. Further, three-quarters surveyed say they believe technology has the potential to make their lives easier.

According to Statistics Canada, only five per cent of seniors 75 and older were online in 2000^[i]; today, that number has grown more than fivefold to 27 per cent^[ii]. Recent data from Pew Research Center, a U.S.-based think-tank, showed 34 per cent of American seniors 75-plus are now online^[iii].

“The computer is invaluable to me. I don’t know what I would do without it,” said Bertha Kronenberg, 88, who stays in touch with family living in South Africa from her computer at Revera’s Forest Hill Place Retirement Residence in Toronto. “The internet is a wonderful record of what is going on in the world.”

Revera Report on Tech-Savvy Seniors: Key Findings

·      Canadian online seniors 75 and older are most inclined to use technology to keep socially active.  In fact, email has surpassed face to face contact as a primary way to keep in contact with friends and family.

·      Fifty-three per cent are socializing via social networking sites like Facebook, and one in five uses Skype or Facetime to speak with friends and family.  

·      Eighty-eight per cent go online at least once a day.

·      Seven in 10 believe technology plays an important role in helping them live in their homes for as long as possible.

In response to this growth, Revera is teaming up with the University of Toronto’s Technologies for Aging Gracefully Lab (TAGlab) in a three-year, $50,000/year research partnership. Along with research and development at the University, the partnership will see TAGlab researchers visiting Revera residences to conduct focus groups and test new technologies.

“Our shared goal is to create new advances in technology that will have a positive impact on the lives of Canadian seniors,” says Trish Barbato, Senior Vice President of Home Health and Business Development at Revera Inc. “There is such vast potential for technology to play a pivotal role in helping seniors stay socially active and independent - both benefits of the digital age that seniors say are key.”

Dr. Ronald Baecker, Founder and Lead Researcher at the TAGlab says while not all seniors are currently embracing technology, the emerging trends illustrate the growing place for digital in helping seniors live their lives, the way they choose.

“We know for instance that Canadians want to age at home,” says Dr. Baecker. “One of the ways we can help them do this is by creating new innovations that will address some of the big challenges they face like isolation and home health care monitoring.  Our partnership with Revera will help us in our mission to advance technology for health, well-being and graceful aging.”

TAGlab is currently working on numerous devices to help social interaction including a touch screen photo frame that sends messages to a loved one’s email saying “I’m thinking of you”.  This message prompts the relative to record a video that is transmitted back to the photo frame for viewing by the senior.  New kinds of electronic books that enhance the experience of reading is another area of focus for TAGlab.

About the Revera Report on Tech-Savvy Seniors

Revera, in partnership with Leger Marketing, surveyed online Canadians aged 55-64, 65-74 and seniors 75+ to find out their attitudes and behaviours around technology use.   The survey was completed online from January 23, 2012 to February 3, 2012 using Leger Marketing’s online panel, LegerWeb, with a sample of 1532 Canadians in the following age groups: 500 Canadians age 55 to 64, 513 Canadians ages 65 to 74; and 519 Canadians age 75+.  A probability sample of the same size would yield a margin of error of ±2.5 per cent, 19 times out of 20.  The Revera Report on Tech-Savvy Seniors is one in a series of reports that will be issued by Revera exploring different topics relevant to the aging experience of Canadian seniors. 

About Revera Inc.

Revera is a leading provider of seniors’ accommodation, care and services; built on 50-year history of helping seniors live life to the fullest. Our nearly 30,000 dedicated employees continually strive to serve a diverse group of clients and to offer choices to meet their individual preferences.  With more than 250 sites across Canada and parts of the U.S., we work to enhance lives in our retirement communities, long term care homes, U.S. nursing and rehab centres and through the provision of home health services.  Canadian-owned and operated, Revera serves approximately 30,000 clients every day, with the core values of respect, integrity, compassion and excellence at the heart of our business.  Find out more about Revera at www.reveraliving.com or find us on Facebook and Twitter.

About TAGlab

TAGlab is a research team in the Department of Computer Science at the University of Toronto that collaborates with clinicians and researchers from the health sciences across North America.  TAGlab conducts research for the journey through life (see also http://taglab.utoronto.ca/).  TAGlab's mission is to enable full participation in society by normally aging senior citizens, and by individuals with special needs — e.g., people afflicted by Alzheimer’s disease (AD), mild cognitive impairment (MCI), aphasia, strokes, multiple sclerosis (MS), or vision loss.  This is done by identifying "sweet spots" where technology seems relevant to human needs, envisioning ways in which the technology could address a problem, then designing, building, testing, and where possible commercializing solutions.

For further information please contact:

Kristen Marano                                                                                                                                                             

Environics Communications                                                                                                                                   

(416) 969-2730                                                                                                                                                          

kmarano@environicspr.com                                                                                                                                

Positive Aging Movement Part 4: Self Esteem Tips

A positive mindset, a dose of optimism and a sense of humour are all needed to maintain a healthy self esteem. But there are other things you can do and habits you can adopt to maintain a strong sense of self and be a poster girl or boy for positive aging. 

Physical appearance: Your physical appearance shows a lot about how your feel about yourself and that you take pride in your appearance. This attitude draws people to you and this can improve your outlook on life.
Stay active: You are responsible for your health and wellbeing. Make sure you eat right and stay physically active. Exercise and nutrition play a crucial role in how you feel physically and mentally. This could be as simple as going for a walk everyday, gardening, doing yoga, dancing, stretching.

Mental self care: Taking time for self reflection every day connects you with your sense of self worth and helps to improve confidence and concentration. These activities can include meditation, affirmations, listening to music, reading, social events, educational workshops.  

Be true to yourself. Live your life doing what feels right to you, not what someone else thinks you should do. Get in the habit of pleasing yourself. You are responsible for your own happiness.

Learn something new. Become an expert. Get curious and learn all there is to know about what interests you. Spend time thinking about what you’d like to find out more about. Hobbies, crafts, learning a language, playing an instrument, a cooking course. Learning is growing, and it feels good.

Celebrate your successes. Even the small ones. Don't wait to get perfect. Any progress at all is worthy of celebration. You are your own cheerleading squad and fan club. Pat yourself he back for challenges you’ve overcome and always push yourself toward new goals.

Utilize your skills and experience: Volunteering can give you an incredible sense of self worth and is extremely rewarding. Your knowledge and skills are yours to share and help others learn. You will also expand your social network and meet new people.

Have a sense of humour: Look for humour in situations. People with a healthy sense of humour have greater self esteem and are more optimistic. Humour reduces tension, breaks down barriers, relaxes, stimulates new ideas, and creates energy and a positive atmosphere.

 

We all face daily setbacks and challenges in life. The key is to roll with the punches and accept whatever life throws at you. Don’t get discouraged. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again. The only constant in life is change and when you’re down, the only way to go is up.   

Positive Aging Movement Part 3 Practising Affirmations

In addition to reviewing our life goals, we can also practice affirmations. Affirmations are brief statements that encourage self esteem and help us motivate ourselves work towards something we want. By maintaining a positive attitude and living in the present, you can actually reprogram your brain into thinking differently.

How do affirmations work?

An affirmation is a declaration that something is true and hinges on the belief that “like attract likes.” Therefore, if you only have negative thoughts and focus on what is wrong in your life, why you are unhappy, why you’re unsatisfied, you will bring more of the same into your life. Conversely, if you focus on positive thoughts, things that make you happy, things that bring satisfaction and contentment, you will attract more of this type of energy.

For affirmations to work, they must be positive, present tense, focus on what you do want, not on what you don’t want. Take a look at the following situations and affirmations:

Situation: You don’t see your children or grandchildren often enough	Affirmation: My family is loving, supportive and enjoys spending quality time together often.
Situation: You are looking for a romantic relationship	Affirmation: I am open to receiving love from the perfect man/woman for me.
Situation: You want to build your self esteem	Affirmation: My personality is radiant with confidence, certainty and optimism.

An exercise you can try is to think of something in your life you would like to improve and write it down. Next write an affirmation for it. When you have a list of affirmations, you should post   these everywhere, carry them around with you and repeat them to yourself several times a day.  Remember to write your affirmations in present tense and make a positive statement.

Shape new ways of thinking

Affirmations can shape new, powerful attitudes and fuel personal and professional success. They can help you to live out your imagination, not your history. Having a positive, introspective perspective can reinforce good health emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

It can be challenging to hold on to optimism and positivity. But don’t get discouraged if you have a down day. Just get back on the horse and stay focused. Motivational speaker, Drew Dudley states, “Ideas are like buildings. They can be constructed, torn down and renovated.” This gives you so much power to control ideas.

One thought can be powerfully negative and prevent you from moving forward. But a thought can be changed. And you have the power within yourself to change it.

Positive Aging Movement Part 2 Reflections & Personal Goals

If we’re going to start the Positive Aging Movement, we need to first learn how to lessen our fear of getting older. This means we need to recognize the potential of every new opportunity that comes our way. It’s important to embrace new opportunities as this let’s us continue experiencing everything we can in life. Let’s not look back on our past as lost moments, but rather use these as a springboard to new ideas, ventures, and opportunities. Some people may be afraid of what the future holds. Yet, we continue to evolve and grow into who we are. We are always in a state of becoming. No matter our age, every moment is another chance to live out our dreams and reach for our goals. 

Once we’ve become aware and learn to take advantage of new opportunities, we need to remind ourselves of how unique we are. There’s no one else like us. Reminding ourselves of our uniqueness, our gifts, talents and skills, leads to individual empowerment and a renewed sense of self.

Look Back on Accomplishments

When we reflect back on our lives and examine our greatest achievements, our best qualities, challenges overcome, this can give us a sense accomplishment and renew feelings of self-worth and pride. It’s a good idea to list them out so you can see a tangible list. For example, what is/are your:

1.    Your greatest achievement

2.    The scariest thing you’ve ever done

3.    The best decision you ever made

4.    The biggest challenges you’ve overcome

5.    Favourite qualities about yourself

A list of achievements and challenges overcome is a great reminder of where you’ve come from and what you’ve accomplished in your life. It’s a roadmap of your life’s journey and can point you to new avenues to explore.

Setting New Life Goals

Once you reflect on all the positive things you’ve done in your life or goals you’ve reached, now is the time to set new goals. It is important to always set goals for yourself and strive to achieve them. You should always have goals no matter your age.

Think about what your passion is in life. What makes you the happiest? Working towards an end result is what keeps us alive and energized.  It’s the drive  that keeps us going. Whether it be learning a new language, a skill or taking up a new hobby. They could be lofty goals such as writing your memoirs, starting your own business, or saving up money to travel the globe. Or something as simple as spending more time with grandchildren.  Post your goals where you can see them everyday for inspiration.  A list of possible goals could be:

1.    What is something you’ve always want to achieve?

2.    Where have you always wanted to visit?

3.    Where would you like to spend most of your time?

4.    What are some things that you need to resolve? With whom?

Setting goals and working towards them can help you feel more confident and motivated.  It doesn’t matter how big or small they are, it is vital to establish goals and work towards their completion. This will bring more satisfaction and a sense of accomplishment.

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HIV, AIDS Cases Rise Sharply for N.J. Senior Citizens in Recent Years

By Barry Carter, The Star-Ledger
March 31, 2012

In New Jersey, one out of three people living with HIV is a female.

And one of them could be your grandmother.

Consider a 76-year-old grandmother from Irvington. The man she dated for years tiptoed outside their relationship seven years ago and turned her life upside down. She began to feel weak but had no idea what was wrong, why she didn’t have an appetite, why she felt sick all the time.

"I sure didn’t think I had long to live," she said. "I was fixin’ to leave this place."

Our elders are living longer these days and staying vibrant longer. They are a generation that never dreamed it would be vulnerable to HIV/AIDS. We didn’t think they were in danger, either.

"It all stems from people thinking that seniors are not sexually active,’’ said Caitlyn Flynn, program coordinator of the New Jersey Women & Aids Network. Consequently, doctors do not look for AIDS symptoms. "We are not asking them questions as if they are sexually active and not giving them the information they need."

As of December 2008, state health officials said, there were 1,282 people age 65 and older living with HIV/AIDs — 32 percent of them are women. Seniors have the fastest rate of increase of HIV/AIDS cases in the past few years.

Between 2007 and 2008, people 65 and over with HIV/AIDS grew 17.5 percent, said Marilyn Riley, spokeswoman for the state Department of Health and Senior Services. Much of the problem, she said, is education and seniors not believing they are at risk. They’ve been in long-term relationships, thinking their partner is not out there creeping. That’s what young people do, right?

Our Irvington grandmother lost over 60 pounds in a year, dropping from 160 to 96 pounds before doctors at the University of Medicine and Dentistry of New Jersey in Newark tested her for the HIV/AIDS virus. The woman asked to remain anonymous for this column because she wants her condition to remain private.

She said she was embarrassed by her illness, which is an additional reason seniors with AIDS are a hidden population. The woman said only two of her children know. None of her friends do, and it’s going to stay that way.

"I have several patients, women in their late 50s who can’t tell their children," said Sally L. Hodder, executive vice chair and director of HIV Programs at the UMDNJ-New Jersey Medical School in Newark. "They wouldn’t know how to explain it."

The Irvington grandmother is better. Her T-cells, the ones that protect the body from infection, are up. So is her weight at 146 pounds. Vegetables never tasted better. She hopes seniors use protection, something she doesn’t worry about anymore. She’s finished with intimacy.

"I’m all by myself now,’’ she said.


Original link: http://www.globalaging.org/health/us/2012/HIV%20AIDS%20Cases%20Rise%20Sharply%20for%20NJ%20Senior%20Citizens%20in%20Recent%20Years.html

Should a legend retire because he is 77?

Should a legend retire because he is 77?

We have a lot of work to do in breaking down stereotypes of older adults and aging.

Recently, I heard a reporter ask a radio show guest, "What do you think of Leonard Cohen releasing a new album now that he is 77 years old?" The guest's response was: "He still has something to say and people want to hear it."

The Canadian icon just released his first studio album since 2004. And he just happens to be 77 years old. Fans have been waiting with baited breath for some new material from him. Still cool, mysterious, sexy and overflowing with talent, of course people want to hear what Cohen has to say.

How odd to think that entering the third quarter of life would prevent this talented man from producing beautiful art.

Age doesn't prevent people having ideas nor wanting to share those ideas with an audience. Creativity, passion and wisdom are uniquely human aspects that need to be cultivated and shared.

A legend maintains status in our collective subconscious because we place value on it. A legend represents something that we hold dear, sacred. This is how it should be. A man or woman who is 77 years old still has ideas, dreams, thoughts and wisdom to share.

They may not have a global audience like Cohen, but they still have something to say that can have a positive impact. Sometimes we just need to listen more closely rather than counting the number of years the person has existed.