By Barry Carter, The Star-Ledger
March 31, 2012
In New Jersey, one out of three people living with HIV is a female.
And one of them could be your grandmother.
Consider a 76-year-old grandmother from Irvington. The man she dated for years tiptoed outside their relationship seven years ago and turned her life upside down. She began to feel weak but had no idea what was wrong, why she didn’t have an appetite, why she felt sick all the time.
"I sure didn’t think I had long to live," she said. "I was fixin’ to leave this place."
Our elders are living longer these days and staying vibrant longer. They are a generation that never dreamed it would be vulnerable to HIV/AIDS. We didn’t think they were in danger, either.
"It all stems from people thinking that seniors are not sexually active,’’ said Caitlyn Flynn, program coordinator of the New Jersey Women & Aids Network. Consequently, doctors do not look for AIDS symptoms. "We are not asking them questions as if they are sexually active and not giving them the information they need."
As of December 2008, state health officials said, there were 1,282 people age 65 and older living with HIV/AIDs — 32 percent of them are women. Seniors have the fastest rate of increase of HIV/AIDS cases in the past few years.
Between 2007 and 2008, people 65 and over with HIV/AIDS grew 17.5 percent, said Marilyn Riley, spokeswoman for the state Department of Health and Senior Services. Much of the problem, she said, is education and seniors not believing they are at risk. They’ve been in long-term relationships, thinking their partner is not out there creeping. That’s what young people do, right?
Our Irvington grandmother lost over 60 pounds in a year, dropping from 160 to 96 pounds before doctors at the University of Medicine and Dentistry of New Jersey in Newark tested her for the HIV/AIDS virus. The woman asked to remain anonymous for this column because she wants her condition to remain private.
She said she was embarrassed by her illness, which is an additional reason seniors with AIDS are a hidden population. The woman said only two of her children know. None of her friends do, and it’s going to stay that way.
"I have several patients, women in their late 50s who can’t tell their children," said Sally L. Hodder, executive vice chair and director of HIV Programs at the UMDNJ-New Jersey Medical School in Newark. "They wouldn’t know how to explain it."
The Irvington grandmother is better. Her T-cells, the ones that protect the body from infection, are up. So is her weight at 146 pounds. Vegetables never tasted better. She hopes seniors use protection, something she doesn’t worry about anymore. She’s finished with intimacy.
"I’m all by myself now,’’ she said.
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