Diana Kirschner
Examiner, April 15
MSNBC April 13, 2010, Here is a report from EntertainmentAndShowbiz.com: “Demi Moore says that she wants to have a baby with husband Ashton Kutcher! That is something new. This new revelation has come as a good sign from the couple… she has married someone who is her junior and she is aware of it. So let her enjoy her family life. She says that she has observed it over the years that he is a good father to her daughters from previous marriage to actor Bruce Willis. She says ‘He’s an amazing father to my daughters already, so I have no doubt that if it’s meant to happen, it would be another incredible part of our journey together.’ … She further says “We talk about it and it’s something that we would like.” The couple married in 2005 and has been quite famous ever since then. The only thing is that they have a huge age gap …. Hope the good news comes in no time and we can call someone Ashton junior.”
Starting with the character of forty-something Samantha and her young boyfriend on Sex and The City, the media has helped in recent years to open up a whole new role model: “the cougar,” an older woman who dates or marries a younger guy. There now is an online cougar dating site called Cougared.com. And OnSpeedDating.com has cougar/boy toy speed dating, among many other older women/younger guy speed dating events. And there is also a popular TV show called Cougar Town.
Younger guys are often extremely attracted to cougars, who sometimes known as MILFs, according to the Urban dictionary, a MILF is “a sexy mom, whether married, separated or divorced, that a male individual sees as physically attractive enough to want to have sexual intercourse with them.” MILFs are viewed as being attractive because they are sexually savvy, careful about birth control and can be great teachers for less experienced men.
In this new Demi-Ashton world, many 45+ women have happily broadened their dating choices to include younger guys. But for them it is not just sexual: the rules have changed according to a recent study of 100 self-proclaimed cougars. The dated stereotype of the older man-eating woman, a la Stifler's mom from 'American Pie,' no longer applies. These days it is not about a sugar mama having a boy toy fling. It’s about finding a new form of lasting and fulfilling love, just as Demi has.
Most of these new cougars say they are not simply looking for a casual encounter, but rather a long-term relationship with a younger guy. They filter out the gold diggers and expect the guy to pay his way—to cover dinner or split the check. These women want the full experience of dating someone who is romantic, chivalrous and, best of all, relatively free of the emotional baggage of past relationships. 52% of the cougars in the study were in their 40s and their ideal guy is aged 24-27. 45% were ‘lifestyle cougars’ who have dated more than five younger men. Over-40 women are redefining the rules and roles of cougar dating. They know what they want in love relationships and are opening doors to new possibilities for themselves. And the younger guys are now hunting cougars!
Diana Kirschner Ph.D.’s bestselling dating advice book “Love in 90 Days” is just out in paperback with a chapter on Dating Games Men Play --plus a special section on successful dating for women over 45. Dr. Diana is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show. Connect with Dr. Diana and get her Free Relationship and Dating Advice E-course.
Source: http://www.examiner.com/x-29255-NY-Dating-Over40-Examiner~y2010m4d15-CougarsRUs-The-New-World-of-Demi-Moore-and-Ashton-Kutcher
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